No disrespect to any of the wonderful ladies out in the world that were raised by good mothers without a father or male role model in the home, but this one isn’t about you.
I honestly believe women that grew up in a 2 parent household, where there was TRUE love and mutual respect, are better life long partners. Now wait, I’m not even marriage material right now, so my opinion of how great a woman is means nothing since I’m not going to commit to only having sex with her, but if I was……I think I’d have to find a girl that had her pops around.
Women who got to see their mothers honor their fathers for all of their life, tend to just know when to shut the heck up and let their man be a man. They tend to be less dependent on men, because their father reared them to be a go getter and never have to depend on a dude. At least this has been my experience in various types of relationships. Father’s, even the ones who aren’t really doing the right things in life, usually love their daughters more than anything else.
Now be clear, just because a man loves his daughter, and his woman/wife, doesn’t mean he didn’t have an affiar or cheat with random strippers or this that and the third. It just means that when it came to keeping things in tact at home, he did his job the best he knew how. I think that leaves a lasting impression on a young girl that she should be treated like a princess, to an extent. The other half comes from seeing how her mother treated her father, the respect and love she gave him. The way she held the family together during problems and stuff like that.
I took a look back at my current main and my most recent ex’s, and I noticed that they all came from two parent households. Now some may say, “if they were raised so right, how the h*ll did they end up messing with you?” Well, I really don’t have an answer to that. Perhaps it’s the fact that I’m actually a good guy, I just won’t settle down with one woman, especially sexually.
Most of the women I dealt with that just grew up with their moms running the house are a handful. People don’t like to hear this, but if your mom has 3 kids, by 3 different dudes, it’s not the dudes anymore…….it’s her. So what example is she setting for her daughter? what structure? She’s showing that it’s ok to have sex with these men and not hold any of them responsible. To continuously let men come in and out of your life without contributing to it at all, I call them dick hungry. The effect is a warped mindset my generations African-American women. It’s all about them, it’s all about impressing other girls with their silly cheap fashion brands. It’s all about “niggas ain’t shit” and never about them not being shit.
At the end, it’s a double-edged sword. The same women I tend to like for certain qualities, are the same women who won’t stick around for too long, because they are unwilling to deal with my inability to committ, or atleast act like I will.